Communication With Intention, Inc.

Dr. Jaqueline Becker has 25 years of experience giving seminars on a variety of topics. She can adapt her seminars to fit your organization’s specific needs.

Steer it, life’s happening anyway.

For more information about Dr. Becker’s availability for Corporate or Hospital Presentations on Bullying, Parenting, or Grief and Loss, please email Dr. Becker at info@dyingtolive1.com

Sample Workshop & Seminars

CHANGE: The Wonderful Condition of Possibilities

Mergers and Acquisitions, Re-Orgs, Start-Ups, New Management, New Strategies, New Staff

STRESS MANAGEMENT

Good Stress—Bad Stress

PARENTING

Parents Are People, Too

KEEPING COOL WHEN THINGS GET HOT

How To Maintain Self-Control—When it’s a challenge

Steer it, life’s happening anyway.

For more information about Dr. Becker’s availability for Corporate or Hospital Presentations on Bullying, Parenting, or Grief and Loss, please email Dr. Becker at info@dyingtolive1.com

I have discovered, after much work with diverse types of organizations, as well as with diverse types of individuals, that people need the most support when they don’t realize it! That can be with negotiating contracts, personal agendas, as well as setting policies and procedures. The reason is, their real intentions on setting goals and objectives often remain unacknowledged.

Setting priorities, executing good time management, giving crispy presentations, making precise evaluations of processes and procedures, showing budget competency…all matter. And, they usually appear to be the focus of positive intentions for executing specific agendas. But the one thing that permeates the successful execution of any ability to achieve successful outcomes are the relationships necessary to bring them to fruition. The bottom line of any organization is enhanced when the wheels of production are greased with care for the development of its people and the nature of their relationships up, down, and sideways.

CWI, Inc. assists all levels of personnel on how to turn previously negative interactions into positive ones. Participants in this workshop/seminar will walk away with a renewed commitment to taking responsibility for the tone, as well as the content, of their interactions as they pertain to achieving stated goals and objectives. This is how we help develop leaders to develop real strength.

Available via Skype, Zoom, or WebEx

Steer it, life’s happening anyway.

For more information about Dr. Becker’s availability for Corporate or Hospital Presentations on Bullying, Parenting, or Grief and Loss, please email Dr. Becker at info@dyingtolive1.com

WHAT MAKES CWI, Inc. STAND OUT

For many, interactions with employees, employers, managers, resource personnel, partners, etc. are not always as effective as we would wish. For communications to be successful we must be aware of, and in control of, our intentions behind the communications. In other words, just because you’re in the workplace, it doesn’t mean you lost your unconscious life and its impact on all your interactions.

Whether in Executive Coaching, Seminars/Workshops or dong Therapy, Dr. Becker and her associates teach how to gain control of the possible unintentional (unconscious) energy in your interactions and harness that energy to transform negative interactions and turn them into positive ones. Threaded through the teaching of self-mastery for interactive behaviors is Dr. Becker’s overarching attitude of respect for our shared human frailties. After all, that’s what we are, humans with fragilities.

How We Do It

  • Help you identify specific communication challenges 
  • Help you develop specific approaches to meet your specific challenges
  • Help you turn negative attitudes into positive ones, yours and others
  • Help you develop new leadership abilities with new techniques for managing up, down and laterally
  • One-on-one or group intensive, Fine Tuning with Dr. Becker or associate.
  • Tailor most aspects of service to your organizations specific needs.

Steer it, life’s happening anyway.

For more information about Dr. Becker’s availability for Corporate or Hospital Presentations on Bullying, Parenting, or Grief and Loss, please email Dr. Becker at info@dyingtolive1.com


Leadership: Power vs Strength

We love to proudly point to our Corporate, Educational, and Political leaders as models of integrity, but for those who fail to demonstrate personal and procedural integrity in their disciples, the word leader is a sham. The word supervisor implies having a superior vision. I can hear the laughter of recognition from many of my clients who live, or have lived, through the experience of supervisors whose visions are, shall we say, not so superior. One of the reasons for the deficits of the many who find themselves in supervisory positions is that they mistake power for strength.

Power, devoid of compassionate policies and procedures is simply a masquerade of strength, and that distortion of real strength in leadership is a depiction of a lower level of consciousness. Real,  ethical manifestations of compassion in the delivery of ethical processes and procedures in our workplaces will be built upon a foundation of more conscious awareness of personal integrity in daily living in our work communities.

A word about the integrity of self-presentation (and not just in the workplace). Passionate expressions of one’s expectations of performance and venomously spewing them forth are worlds apart. Historically, as most of us know, venomously spewing and demonizing others has led to horrors for humanity. But, we are now at a tipping point and our individual actions are vital for shaping the tenor of our time and the future for those who come after us.

Bullies will not fool the strong. The weak will follow them as they are pulled by a longing for acceptance, admiration, and a lift up to the imagined power status of the bully. Be strong, hold onto your true values because the bullies really only give to themselves; when their needs are satiated, you are no longer relevant to them and will be quite easily discarded.

Bullies, running for high office in business and/or politics, or bullies running for self-aggrandizement in the schoolyard appear larger than life. Yet, most of us know it’s impossible for anyone to really be larger than life. So what are bullies larger than?

They are larger than our expectations for them to extend reasonable empathy toward others. We are shocked that bullies can be so cruel to others and take whatever they want whenever they want to. We don’t do that because most of us care that we might cause harm to others. Bullies seem unable to care. Some of them…some, can learn to care, others can learn to demonstrate caring behaviors, others will remain unchangeable; remember though, the unchanged bullies serve as our teachers for what not to do.

On our children’s tiny shoulders, and in their souls, they carry their positive and negative experiences of us. On the shoulders of our employees, colleagues, and bosses, they too carry their positive and negative experiences of us. For encouraging real leaders in our organizations and not power grabbers, we are called upon to learn, and teach others, how important it is to become more conscious of the impact of our attitudes and behaviors on others. What wonderful tides we can turn…together.

CWI, Inc. can help you evaluate if you, or those on your staff, are amongst the changeable ones. 

Make no mistake, we all bully from time to time. What we want is to care to fix that as much as possible and foster leaders with real strength.

—Dr. Becker.

Steer it, life’s happening anyway.

For more information about Dr. Becker’s availability for Corporate or Hospital Presentations on Bullying, Parenting, or Grief and Loss, please email Dr. Becker at info@dyingtolive1.com


Mindful Made Simple

There was never any confusion about my dogs and my desire to please each other. Both of us did whatever was necessary to create happy days. Oh, don’t get me wrong, we did displease each other from time to time and we each had our own particular ways of expressing that displeasure. She, Lucky, peed on the Oriental rug and sulked, and I, impulsively yelled at her, and at other times I iced her out for as long as I could bear it.

The awesome thing about Lucky is that she instinctively knew how to love everyone. What I mean by that is—she knew how to precisely show she cared about how each person felt. Her touch to humans, as well as to other dogs, seemed magical. The therapist that I am knows that a precisely honed expression of caring often feels like magic to people. In my office, or anywhere at all, Lucky, my little Yorkshire terrier, was so preciously gifted at knowing just what to do as well as when and how to do it.

I had a patient who was suffering from pancreatic cancer. When she was still able to bring her frail and hurting body to the office she would lay on the couch. Each time she did that, much to her and my amazement, Lucky would jump up onto the couch and lay her little body on the exact spot of my patient’s bodily pain. With other patients, Lucky might be in a deep sleep and if a specific patient began to cry, Lucky was up and at those tears with her lovely little licks. However, she was not remotely insensitive. If in a distinct moment, Lucky sensed that someone would not be receptive to her attention she would not move an iota to offer licks.

A friend of mine brought her grieving dog, Poppy to my home. She thought it might be helpful for Poppy since Poppy’s dog sister, Q.T. had passed away and Poppy was not doing very well adapting to the loss. Lucky and Poppy knew each other from when Q.T. was well so this visit was not atypical for either dog. My friend brought Poppy’s bed and food bowl along with Poppy since she was going to spend a few days with Lucky and me. Nothing outstanding took place that first day until it was time for sleep. As dogs do, and before deciding on her resting spot, Poppy sniffed everything, and she, to my surprise, chose Lucky’s bed to sleep in, not her own. Lucky noted that looked at me, evaluated the situation, and simply, gently, walked over to Poppy’s bed and lay her sweet body down to rest. She intuited what Poppy needed and was kind enough to allow Poppy her needy gesture.

The next morning, Lucky let Poppy eat from her bowl! If you know dogs, this is not a minor doggie gesture just as accepting the bed switch was not. Lucky’s ability to overcome her instinctive impulses to fight and protect her own territory was awe-inspiring.

Lucky’s intention was always to love and boy did she know-how! Mindful in each moment of life, she is the perfect role model for what it means to be present. The Now, oops – just gone, is so precious since it is how we experience life if we really want to live it. This is what I teach and Lucky was, is, my supervisor. Whether in therapeutic relationships offered in my office, in schools, organizations, or in personal relationships, this type of mindful evaluation of the needs of others is a guiding principle. With CWI, Inc. as support, you will develop your inherent abilities to listen precisely which, in turn, will increase your ability to build more positive relationships.

My bottom line advice regarding mindful is—Listen in a way that shows you really want to hear someone and supply what that person might really need in a given moment. And, as Lucky did with Poppy, give beyond your own impulses, examine, think. This is not to suggest you deny your own needs or go against your basic values, but it is to suggest there are moments when it is wise to be able to control your impulsive responses to people and things.

Yes, that does take practice. Yes, you can do it. Can you do it all the time? None of us can. But can you do it more and more?

Definitely.

Love from Lucky…and me.

—Dr. Becker

Steer it, life’s happening anyway.

For more information about Dr. Becker’s availability for Corporate or Hospital Presentations on Bullying, Parenting, or Grief and Loss, please email Dr. Becker at info@dyingtolive1.com